W Stories – from my other blog

Mistresses and Affairs (3-20-2010)

I read the Rielle Hunter full interview for GQ magazine just now. The whole 10-page article gave me mixed feelings. At one point, I felt sorry that she’s this woman who’s blinded by the affair and would do and say anything for her man. Pages after, I was outraged by what she’s saying about Mrs. Edwards. Then I go back to pity and start all over again.There should be a guide book for mistresses on how they should deal with the wife issue. Rule number 1 – Never bad mouth the wife in public, unless she is this evil, devil-worshiping villain the people sees. Rule number 2 – Being humble and apologetic wouldn’t hurt.

Ms. Hunter was never apologetic in her tone. She was blasting Mrs. Edwards for how she treated John and etc. She said she wasn’t a home-wrecker, that they had problems even before she was in the picture. Maybe so, but they also weren’t divorced yet then. So there’s also a reason why they were still together.

She also seems blinded by her own delusions of some sort. That’s my take on her. Or maybe I’m biased because I don’t like mistresses who think they can flaunt their affairs.

What’s the point in all these? I don’t know. All I know is I’m one of those people who upon reading her story did not like her or will ever do.

Living in Pain (January 2009)

Migraine by Oliver Sacks is a wonderful book if you’re a migraineur. It’s descriptive and informative as well. Reading the case files in there makes you realize you are not alone and that there are other people who are suffering more than you do (not that it’s a good thing).

I’ve had migraine for almost 20 years now. It started when I was 15, as far as I can remember. Migraine has triggers; emotional and physiological. My first attack that I can be sure of (when I was 15) was triggered by emotional stress.

I’ve learned to cope with the pain. I’ve accepted that I’ll have the pain till I die or until the pain kills me. I tried acupuncture, I know all my triggers so I avoid them (like alcohol, strong scent etc.) I take medicine at the onset of the attack cuz it is easier for the medicine to work (only takes a few minutes for the pain to subside) unlike in a full blown migraine attack where I’ll have to wait for 1 to 2 hours for the pain to subside (note: subside, not go away – it comes back when the meds wear off).

I’ve tried several medications given by the doctors here. I don’t trust Korean doctors that much that’s why I check my prescriptions online. Korean doctors are very dismissive of their patients. They have this “don’t-ask” mentality. It might have something to do with the Confucian society they are so used to. I hate it. I ask what, why, and everything else. I’m always given the silent treatment. Anyways, most pills don’t work with me. Triptans, beta blockers give me a heart-attack-like side effect. Others make me nauseous. Tylenol (given alongside other meds) gives me rebound headaches.

This morning I went to the hospital again for check up. I’ve had a headache/mild migraine for over a week now which prompted me to go to the hospital. I’ve been told to do so since I have severe migraine; I’m prone or at least likely to suffer from brain aneurysm. So anyways, since the headache started, I kept a headache diary cuz this time it felt different. Also it wasn’t relieved by sleep. I could literally feel the pain even when I’m sleeping. Which begs the question; what kind of sleep was that if I was conscious of the pain the whole time? Anyways, most of my attacks go away when I sleep or at least subside while I sleep. This time it didn’t. There was also a lump near my ear, just above my neck/skull area and it was painful to the touch. I didn’t bump my head or anything which made it unusual (for me, at least).

So, off to the hospital… The doctor started with “How’s your headache? Still the same?” I took out my journal, told him about the pain in details. He had a diagnosis for me even before I finished talking. He asked me if I’m stressed, I said no (I’m not sure if I am). He said I need to have an injection. I have neuralgia. “Injection? To my skull?” I was ready to protest and ran away then he said “Just in the nerves”. My next stupid question naturally was if it was painful. He said no, the needle is very thin, will sting just a bit when the drug goes into the nerves. As I said earlier, my question was stupid because naturally it hurts. A lot! F**ing thing hurts like hell! Imagine having a needle inserted into your nerves, in your head. And since it’s the nerves, a slight mistake could make you a vegetable or something. Maybe I’m exaggerating, maybe not. He said he’s gonna prescribe some medicine for me. Told him I don’t need any triptans cuz it doesn’t work for me. He looked taken aback. Koreans don’t tell their doctors no, as far as I know. So anyways, he said it’s just painkillers. I didn’t buy the meds. I’m still trying to understand what it’s for when I already had a shot in my nerves. Or was it for the inflammation?

I have a schedule for MRI on Saturday night. I’m curious to find out what $500 worth of test would result to.

(un) reproductive (June 25, 2008)

If you’re male and you happen to stumble upon this page, move along now because you don’t need to know about my uterus or ovary or any woman’s reproductive problems for that matter.
If you belong to the female species, you might find something valuable (I hope) in this dilemma I have.

It started five years ago. I’ve had pain in my lower abdomen for quite a while before I decided to go the hospital to have it checked. There were reasons I wasn’t fond of hospitals here. First, the language barrier. I wasn’t as fluent as I was five years ago. Second, I had a prior experience wherein a neurologist (consult for my migraine) touched my breast while examining for my heartbeat, which I think was irrelevant to my migraine at the time, BTW. I wasn’t able to do anything. I couldn’t. Maybe it was fear, maybe shock, I don’t know. I changed doctors, changed hospital after that.
Anyways, I went to the hospital for check-up. I was told I had right ovary tumor and I needed surgery cuz it was causing pain and discomfort. I was told they would do a laparoscopy to remove the cyst. I need not worry, they said. I was at the hospital for five days, just to make sure I don’t bleed out, after that I was up and about. I had discomfort for 2 more weeks (meaning I can’t do any heavy lifting and the meds made me drowsy).

Last February, I went to another hospital (I found a female OB-GYN, finally) and had a check-up for lower abdominal pain again. I was told there was clotting in my fallopian tube. What was shocking to me was when the doctor asked me when I had my right ovary removed and why. I didn’t know I was missing one up until that point. Sure I was told by a doctor in Manila two years ago that they couldn’t see my right ovary in the ultrasound but that it (ovaries not showing up during ultrasound) was common, sometimes it happens.

After knowing that my ovary was missing, I went to the hospital where I had my surgery and basically asked them what they did with it. I was given the run-around at first. They said the doctor who did my surgery had retired; they can’t discuss it with me, only that doctor can. Who are they kidding? A few days after that, I had to go to the emergency room because of abdominal pain again and after so much had been done (CT scan, X-Ray, pelvic ultrasound I asked the resident (I begged him!) to tell me why they removed my ovary without informing me. He said (whispered) the cyst must have been spread throughout the ovary and the only way to remove it completely was to remove the ovary along with it. But I was assured that the cyst was not that big and that it was a simple surgery, I said. He replied that it must not have been the case during the actual surgery. He wasn’t sure, he was just saying what he thought happened, he said. By the way, he was looking at my file the whole time.

During my February hospital visit, my doctor couldn’t explain why there was clotting and swelling of the left fallopian tube. She thought I was pregnant. After convincing her that I’m not sexually active (poor me!) at the moment, she told me to get a second opinion because she was hesitant to do a hysterectomy (given the situation it was one of the options that we both don’t want to do but if severe bleeding would occur, it was the only solution). During that time there was so much blood at my tubes that she couldn’t diagnose me properly. (I also suffer from endometriosis that made her examination hard). She told me to come back after three days but I never did.

So, the pain came back. Earlier today I went there and finally she had a diagnosis. My ultrasound was clear so it was easy for her. During menstruation period, the waste (blood) needs to come out. My fallopian tubes should have the ovary where it could just circulate and go out. I don’t have that on the right side so what happens is the blood accumulates inside my right tubes, causing the swelling, the pain and in my case now, small abscess. I’m taking antibiotics and pain killers. I even had a shot (antibiotic) earlier. If the pills don’t work, I need to have shots every day. Did I say I hate needles?

All this because I have an ovary removed and my reproductive system is screwed up.

Teen Pregnancy (June 19, 2008)

I found this (Pregnancy Boom at Gloucester High) first at Perezhilton. I laughed at the caption: “Blame Jamie Lynn and Juno”.. It’s only funny at first but when you read the article, you’ll want to smack some sense into those teens.Says there it was a pact to get pregnant and raise their babies together. Where did they get the idea that raising children is easy and fun? Haven’t we seen movies and news articles that dealt with the hardships of being a single parent?

They are excited to have babies so they can have someone who’ll love them unconditionally. Jeez, did nobody teach these kids? How can you enjoy having a kid when you’re busy studying, working and planning a future for you and your kid? Children deserve more than just being born into this world.

But by May, after nurse practitioner Kim Daly had administered some 150 pregnancy tests at Gloucester High’s student clinic, she and the clinic’s medical director, Dr. Brian Orr, a local pediatrician, began to advocate prescribing contraceptives regardless of parental consent, a practice at about 15 public high schools in Massachusetts. Currently Gloucester teens must travel about 20 miles (30 km) to reach the nearest women’s health clinic; younger girls have to get a ride or take the train and walk. But the notion of a school handing out birth control pills has met with hostility. Says Mayor Carolyn Kirk: “Dr. Orr and Ms. Daly have no right to decide this for our children.” The pair resigned in protest on May 30.
Gloucester’s elected school committee plans to vote later this summer on whether to provide contraceptives. But that won’t do much to solve the issue of teens wanting to get pregnant. Says rising junior Kacia Lowe, who is a classmate of the pactmakers’: “No one’s offered them a better option.” And better options may be a tall order in a city so uncertain of its future
Gloucester isn’t sure it wants to provide easier access to birth control.

Huh?? I’m always amazed at people and government officials who think that they are helping teens by not giving them contraceptives. I hate when they put their religious beliefs first and ignore reality. The issue goes much deeper than that. It always does. Whatever it is (economics, family or religious issue) isn’t it right to educate everyone so there wont be any more of this? It isn’t fair.. to everyone concerned..

what started this

We all have stories we want to tell. We either experienced it, witnessed it, watched it on tv or just pure imagination and wishful thinking that it may happen to us (like me marrying Keanu Reeves.. hehe). Women like to talk. We gossip. We have intuitions.

I created this blog to specifically deal with women’s issues, stories, gossip etc.
I will have stories where I’ll change the names of people involved to protect them.

Anyways, let’s see what happens. One thing I know for sure though, I’ll write what I feel. I’ll write about what affects me. Real or not…


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